We Indians are deeply familiar with the saying “Marriages are made in Heaven” & we do strongly believe in it. Marriage is a huge transition period in our life. We all have our own imaginations regarding marriage.
Romance, joy, fun, naughty fantasies, enjoyment, sweet-talking, gifts, etc. are some of the common imaginations.
Did you notice these all are positive imaginations?
But, every coin has two sides. Sometimes, things don’t go as per your plan or imagination.
The marriage which is said to be made in heaven can turn into absolute hell when issues or problems raise post marriage. You’re thought of living happily ever, after getting married absolutely gets cracked when complications knock the doors.
Your relationship is on the verge of getting vanished, but you both want to save it somehow. This is where a marriage counselor plays a lion’s share in saving your relationship. It’s never too late to see a marriage counselor if a couple honestly wants to save a relationship.
But, do you know exactly when to see a marriage counselor?
Here are some of the signs when you need to see a marriage counselor:
(1) No Communication:
Communication is an inevitable part of a healthy relationship. You can’t expect zero communication or negative communication will resolve all the conflicts between two of you. Marriage counselors help in facilitating new ways to improve communication between couples. Communication heals all sorts of issues in a relationship.
(2) When you see your partner as an enemy:
Constant fights, unnecessary arguments, verbal abusing, insult, doubts, etc. These things make your partner see as your enemy. You really need to look for a couple counselor or marriage counselor when such thoughts strike the mind.
(3) When you do not share secrets:
Each individual in a relationship has a right to privacy, but not sharing secrets may lead to a lack of trust and create unwanted doubts which harm the relationship.
(4) When you doubt having an extramarital affair:
Imagine your partner comes home late night after partying or is on a night out for partying, doubt of having an affair immediately strikes your mind. Little jealousy is cute in a relationship, but doubts and allegations threaten relationships to a higher extent. Seeking a marriage counselor reduces the intensity of such thoughts or at least it realizes both of you it’s an unwanted or irritating thing for a good relationship.
(5) Financial unfitness:
When the budget of a whole month goes wrong and left empty hand at the end of the month, you meet a heated argument with your partner regarding spending and expenses of the month. Before it gets too heated, consult a professional marriage counselor.
(6) When you both live separate lives:
When couples live a life of roommates more than partners, it’s a desperate need to seek a marriage counselor. Marriage or couple counselors realize the importance of spending time together. They guide you with new ways of living together for a healthier relationship.
(7) Sex life unsatisfied or is miserable:
When one of you is unsatisfied sexually or isn’t happy with the sex life. Or get easily bored at the bed; it’s time to go for a marriage counselor. They assist you better than anyone else for the betterment of your sexual life.
It is always better to consult a professional marriage counselor or couple counselor than waiting too long and ruin a life.
Advantages of Marriage Counseling Therapy:
(1) Improve communication so you both feel heard, understood and connected.
(2) Strengthen the emotional bond between partners.
(3) Increase cooperation.
(4) Reduce stress.
(5) Excellent bonding
(6) A Greater build-up in trust. (7) Realizing the significance of each other.